A funny observation I have made wince having Sawyer is about having a family. When I got pregnant with Sawyer everyone was surprised because we hadn’t told anyone we were planning on starting a family (we are not married). However, once he was born everyone started asking me “so when are you having another baby?”. All the time! It was really frustrating because a) what business is it of theirs and b) because we were trying so hard and it wasn’t going as planned.
Now that we have had the twins, it is the complete opposite. Everyone keeps asking me “so you are done now, right?” It’s like there is some unwritten rule that two children is the perfect amount and so with less you are to keep going but with three you are to stop.
To be honest, I don’t know how to answer the question. Usually I just say yes, but who’s to say we wouldn’t want to round out the family with one more? Is there something wrong with that? As long as we love and can provide for our children that’s all that matters. And at the end of the day is there that big of a difference between a family of five or a family of six?
I sometimes wish I could say we are letting God decide (like the families on TLC) but everyone would laugh because they know I am not religious. I would love to have tons of kids but I have to be realistic about what we can manage and respectful of my partner’s wishes. Still if an “oops” baby ever came along I would consider him or her as the miracle they would be no matter what anyone else thinks.