A question I still have no answer to. What does a mom look like? Or maybe I should say, what kind of mom do I want to look like?
Growing up, describing something with the adjective “mom” in front of it was always derogatory in nature. “Mom jeans”, “mom hair” etc. Poor moms. I get it. You don’t have time to worry about yourself because your life is full of kids.
Today, with the proliferation of sexy celebrity moms, moms have a newer image (the word MILF was not around in the 80s). I think this is good in that it acknowledges that you have a life beyond motherhood and that you can be a mom and a sexy lady.
However, at the same time, us real moms don’t have chefs, trainers, Nannys and maids, making it almost impossible to live up to the expectations celebrities set (don’t even get me started on celebrity pregnancies and baby weight, that’s for another day).
I myself aim for a happy medium? I think? Above all things I am practical. I definitely think about my appearance, but I also think about practicality and comfort. I am not waking my dogs in heels or letting a baby spit up on a designer top.
I am the first to admit sometimes I play it too casual, but I also don’t spend a lot of money on myself (or at least as much as I used to). Then yesterday when I was walking the dogs I saw my reflection in a window. I was taken aback by what I saw. A hot mess! I was wearing running shoes with a skirt (which I so try to avoid), a tank top that was too small (pre-pregnancy) and a cardigan that was too big (“maternity”). It got me thinking, I really need to do something about my style.
The problem is, I don’t know what my style is anymore. Having been pregnant twice in the last three years and in the last year having gone from 110 lbs to 172lbs and now on my way back again, has really warped my body image (not in a negative way per se, just an I don’t know how to dress my body way).
Since I am not working right now most days I don’t bother with my hair or make-up and if its clean its good. I want to step it up.
It’s true. If you have nice hair and make up on you can be wearing sweats and look good. Conversely, you could be wearing a Versace gown, but with messy hair and no make up you will look like crap.
As for my hair, I have now tried to get it cut twice and twice the hairdressers have talked me out of it. I just don’t have time for long hair and I think women with shorter hair look more put together. I plan on making a third attempt soon, but I am still having trouble choosing a style. Do I want to look young or professional or pretty or even…sexy?
They say you have to get lost in order to find yourself which is good because right now I am pretty lost! Luckily hubby says he will love me no matter what but I still want him to find me attractive.
So as I continue on my journey to style I am curious to know what your opinions. How has being a mom affected your sense of style? Do you think moms have “a look”. How important is your look to you? I look forward to reading your answers.