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Dental Dilemma: pain, guilt and money.


Its a choice no parent likes to make. Who to take care of first, you or them. In my case, I always choose them. But now I have a problem.

I admit it. I have not always taken great care of my teeth. I made it through my entire childhood cavity free, so I guess a got a little cocky. That, combined with my habit of eating candy for dinner when I was in university did not make for.a.happy mouth.

Long story short, I had a rotten tooth a couple of years ago. When I went to get it pulled, the dentist convinced me to get a root canal, stating my dental plan should cover it. True, the plan did cover the canal, but after paying $1000 (my plans limit) I was told the canal needed to have a crown which, because it was awkward, would cost another $2000. There was no way I was paying that, so I took my chances.

Last month the filling fell out. No big deal, I thought. Since there is no root left in the tooth, it can’t hurt right? Wrong!

The first thing I thought was if I get it pulled now I can’t take any of the good pain medications because I am nursing. I shudder when I remember how bad it was the last time I had a tooth pulled, and I have a high tolerance for pain (um, gave birth to twins with little pain medication). So I stalled.

Finally, I broke down and went for a consult. Apparently this tooth has really long roots and I need to have oral surgery to remove it. And instead of $100 its gonna cost $1000. This just gets better and better. The kicker, because they have to sedate me, I can’t breastfeed for 24 hours after (you have to pump and dump because the medication lingers in your milk).

What? But I need to breastfeed my babies. Now what do I do? They are my priority, and they need me. But I am in so much pain, I can’t eat or sleep and I’m going through a bottle of Tylenol every couple of days.

I stretched it out two months until yesterday. Finally, guilt ridden, I booked the appointment. I realized that I need to get this dealt with to move forward and that I am no good as a mother when I am in pain. I think my real consolation is that they will be five months then, and my breastfeeding goal was six months so I think I will make it, even with the upset.

Still, I worry about how I will take care of the girls post surgery, and that they won’t want to nurse anymore, and that I will be in pain and trying to pump (which I hate) with three upset kids.

Technically, I could get another root canal for $3000 but we are saving for a house, and I just don’t value my tooth that much! Sad, but again, I have priorities…family first.

So, what would you do? Would you struggle even longer, or would you have already gotten it fixed a long time ago, even if it meant sacrifices for your kids. Better yet, has anyone been in a similar position and had it work out?

There is no pain like tooth pain!


About Shannon

I am a university educated full-time working mother of four children. Proudly Canadian, I freeze my butt off along with my loving partner, two dogs and a cat. I hope you enjoy reading my posts as much as I love writing them, but if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all.


6 thoughts on “Dental Dilemma: pain, guilt and money.

  1. Oh sweetie, I’m so sorry. There’s nothing like tooth pain 😦 but it is quite serious and you have no choice but to attend to it. I’m sure they will bounce back with nursing when you start again. Babies are more resilient than we normally know since we do such a good job keeping everything perfect for them… good luck.

    Posted by Christie Silver | June 2, 2013, 1:56 pm
    • Thanks for the kind words. I did get it pulled and we made it through. Things always seem so big and then looking back they are just bumps on the road of life right?

      My mouth and my wallet are hurting though :-p

      Posted by Shannon | June 2, 2013, 4:25 pm
      • Oh dear, tooth pain is the worst. It was probably better to have it dealt with early to avoid further problems. When I was breastfeeding the kids I usually have a stash on standby in case of emergencies like this (pump after latch)

        Posted by mummyshymz | June 3, 2013, 12:27 am
      • I had a bit of a stash, but with twins it’s really hard to make extra and it doesn’t go very far! LOL Got it fixed, and I am glad I did, it was barely a blip for the girls, but I am also glad I waited until they were this old.

        Now I am in the healing process win only Tylenol but I at least get to move on 🙂

        Posted by Shannon | June 3, 2013, 1:19 am
      • With twins it’s a double challenge, hehe. Glad everything turned out well for you. Hope your tooth feels better very soon!

        Posted by mummyshymz | June 3, 2013, 6:38 am
      • Thanks!

        Posted by Shannon | June 3, 2013, 2:18 pm

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