Its a choice no parent likes to make. Who to take care of first, you or them. In my case, I always choose them. But now I have a problem.
I admit it. I have not always taken great care of my teeth. I made it through my entire childhood cavity free, so I guess a got a little cocky. That, combined with my habit of eating candy for dinner when I was in university did not make for.a.happy mouth.
Long story short, I had a rotten tooth a couple of years ago. When I went to get it pulled, the dentist convinced me to get a root canal, stating my dental plan should cover it. True, the plan did cover the canal, but after paying $1000 (my plans limit) I was told the canal needed to have a crown which, because it was awkward, would cost another $2000. There was no way I was paying that, so I took my chances.
Last month the filling fell out. No big deal, I thought. Since there is no root left in the tooth, it can’t hurt right? Wrong!
The first thing I thought was if I get it pulled now I can’t take any of the good pain medications because I am nursing. I shudder when I remember how bad it was the last time I had a tooth pulled, and I have a high tolerance for pain (um, gave birth to twins with little pain medication). So I stalled.
Finally, I broke down and went for a consult. Apparently this tooth has really long roots and I need to have oral surgery to remove it. And instead of $100 its gonna cost $1000. This just gets better and better. The kicker, because they have to sedate me, I can’t breastfeed for 24 hours after (you have to pump and dump because the medication lingers in your milk).
What? But I need to breastfeed my babies. Now what do I do? They are my priority, and they need me. But I am in so much pain, I can’t eat or sleep and I’m going through a bottle of Tylenol every couple of days.
I stretched it out two months until yesterday. Finally, guilt ridden, I booked the appointment. I realized that I need to get this dealt with to move forward and that I am no good as a mother when I am in pain. I think my real consolation is that they will be five months then, and my breastfeeding goal was six months so I think I will make it, even with the upset.
Still, I worry about how I will take care of the girls post surgery, and that they won’t want to nurse anymore, and that I will be in pain and trying to pump (which I hate) with three upset kids.
Technically, I could get another root canal for $3000 but we are saving for a house, and I just don’t value my tooth that much! Sad, but again, I have priorities…family first.
So, what would you do? Would you struggle even longer, or would you have already gotten it fixed a long time ago, even if it meant sacrifices for your kids. Better yet, has anyone been in a similar position and had it work out?
There is no pain like tooth pain!