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What Do You Do When Someone Unfollows You?

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I always used to joke about Facebook that people would not be so quick to delete people if Facebook send a notice to the person saying something like “john smith is no longer your friend”.

Well, it seems a blogger that I actually was holding in my mind as a mentor unfollowed my blog and it has me very upset.

In my mind I know I should just shake it off and move along. I mean really, I have never even met this person! Yet for some reason it’s late at night and I am sitting here with my stomach in knots losing sleep over it.

Yes, I admit, part of it may be guilt that she deleted me over a hasty comment I made.  I spoke my mind when I should have kept my mouth shut, but I did apologize for it.

I guess the reason I am so sad about it is that I learned so much from her blog. It was her encouragement that made me see my blog as more than just an online diary. I am very sad to have lost her (and I still hope one day she will come back, but I doubt it).

It also bothers me becwuse one of the reasons I blog is because it is fun for me, my one hobby. Now because of this I feel upset and I don’t want to blog anymore. It sounds silly to me even as I write it, but the thick skin I have developed over the years does not cover social media yet. LOL

So since I am relatively new to the blogging world I thought I’d ask. Has this ever happened to you? Does it bother you when you lose followers? Have you ever gotten into a fight or misunderstanding with another blogger?

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I am a university educated full-time working mother of four children. Proudly Canadian, I freeze my butt off along with my loving partner, two dogs and a cat. I hope you enjoy reading my posts as much as I love writing them, but if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all.

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20 thoughts on “What Do You Do When Someone Unfollows You?

  1. Try to not worry and put this into perspective. As i read recently Hitler had millions of followers and Jesus only 12…..dont be afraid to be who you are.

    Posted by Mrs Smith | July 3, 2013, 8:45 am
  2. It’s yet to happen for me, but I’m sure it will. ….. I want to know more details. LOL. Am I evil? 😉

    Posted by Chasing a Daredevil and Twins | July 3, 2013, 9:10 am
  3. I’m quite new to blogging too so at this stage of the game, I’m trying to gain new followers rather than lose them too. I would try not to worry about it. For every one person that unfollows you, there will be 10 that will follow you, as long as you stay true to yourself and enjoy your blogging 🙂

    Posted by Dawn Frazier | July 3, 2013, 12:31 pm
    • Thanks. It’s not so much about gaining or losing followers. I think I create imaginary friendly relationships with other bloggers in my mind that don’t really exist (since I have very few friends in real life. I think I need to realize that at the end of the day we are readers of each others blogs but not each others friends.

      Posted by Shannon | July 3, 2013, 1:36 pm
  4. I’ve not had that happen to me as I’m fairly new to blogging. I can understand how you feel… I would feel the same way too. All I can say is that we cannot please everyone all the time, just stay true to yourself 🙂

    Posted by mummyshymz | July 3, 2013, 1:48 pm
  5. I’m sort of new to the public blogging thing so I don’t even know how to figure out who is following me or if they leave.

    With that said, I rarely pay close enough attention to social media either. I see my friends posting statuses like “Really, I lost 3 friends since last night?” And I think to myself, uh? Do you really check THAT closely?

    I unfriend/unfollow people all the time.Its rarely personal. If I don’t hear from someone pretty frequently, I don’t see the benefit in continuing to let them into my little space of Internet.

    Posted by Heather C | July 3, 2013, 3:00 pm
  6. I love your blog and I don’t think you need to be upset about it. Think about how you change friends throughout your life as you continue to grow as a person. Same thing for the blogs you follow.

    Posted by twotastic | July 3, 2013, 6:48 pm
    • Thanks for the compliment, I love your blog too. You are right. I’ll get over it and it won’t be a big deal anymore. You know how it is, the first time of anything is a big deal but then its just normal.

      Posted by Shannon | July 3, 2013, 8:37 pm
  7. Was going to write a post about being unfriended on Facebook and how paranoid and upset it made me! So yeah… Been there. I also got Un followed by someone last week and it kinda bugged me. But I’ve un followed blogs too and it is nothing personal. Everyone has different tastes and interests. Keep blogging sister! You rock! Xo.

    Posted by momasteblog | July 3, 2013, 8:45 pm
    • You are right. Usually it doesn’t bother me, I gain and lose followers all the time. It was just this one since I thought of her as more of a friend, but really
      I wouldn’t be able to pick her out of a crowd so I feel a bit silly.

      Posted by Shannon | July 3, 2013, 9:20 pm
  8. I’m still following you! Lol. If this blogger was so hurt by what you said even after apologizing then I wouldn’t waste anymore energy on it. Time to move on and learn from other bloggers of the world.

    Posted by nebrtwin | July 3, 2013, 9:07 pm
  9. How do you tell when someone unfollows you? I don’t really notice but I’m sure it happens. I don’t think it’s silly to feel weird. You do strike up online friendships with your regular followers so I know I would feel a little rebuffed if one of those particular followers decided to ditch me. It’s normal. All I can say is what another has said here…if she really took what you said so personally that an apology couldn’t even cover it then maybe it’s for the best anyway. I am quite a new follower of you but I am really enjoying your blog. Keep at it sister. You are doing a great job!

    Posted by mummyflyingsolo | July 4, 2013, 12:05 am
    • Thanks for the encouragement. I think you really understood the context of the post. If you go to stats and then click on followers it will tell you who follows your blog. I only checked because she stopped commenting so I went to see if she was still following. Otherwise I have never checked before. All the comments reminded me of all the other great blogs (including yours) I have to learn from. Thanks!

      Posted by Shannon | July 4, 2013, 12:45 am

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