I am a scholar at heart. I am always reading and researching (which is no surprise since I spent seven years in university doing just that). So, since jumping into the world of blogging I have been researching everything from tips for promoting your blog, to how to make your posts interesting. I have also been reading and following a lot of similar blogs to my own (parenting, moms of multiples etc.). I have also been talking with some friends and family about my blog.
In all of this I have come to realize people do not appreciate “mommy blogs” in the way they should.
When I first started blogging I thought it was such a great idea. When I was pregnant with the girl’s I learned more from reading other people blogs than I did from reading the myriad of twin books I bought. Books are “in theory”. Well, in theory communism works. Blogs are “in reality” (or slightly edited versions of reality).
Yet, when I told my friend about my blog, she said, “oh yeah, there are tons of mommy blogs. They talked about them at a media conference I went to as a dime a dozen.” And believe me, she was in the midst of supporting me, so she was not trying to be hurtful or discouraging in any way.
Just last night I was reading about blogging for your career on Mashable (since I plan to start a professional blog as well) and the article made a joke about how there is more to blogging that “mommy blogs”.
Finally, the cherry on the cake was an article I read (which I wanted to link to, but of course I couldn’t find it again) which actually said blogging was bad for women. Basically, rather than empowering us it made us look like silly housewives posting electronic scrap books of our lives (I am paraphrasing here, I read the article a few weeks ago).
So what’s going on here? Why is being a mother and a blogger not as impressive as say being Watson blogging about Sherlock? (Great show by the way, watch it!)
Here’s my take on it. They say it takes a village to raise a child and it does. In earlier times, or even still in other cultures families are large and mothers, sisters and daughters all help eachother out. They don’t read parenting books or visit lactation specialists, they talk to each other, help each other and learn from each other.
Here in North America, families are smaller, segregated, and the village is not always there. So, by mothers blogging, networking and sharing they create a virtual village of resources for other parents to turn to in times of need, for help or even just a laugh to remind them they are not alone. Being a SAHM can definitely feel lonely sometimes.
Speaking of SAHMs, that another point. There are thousands of intelligent, well educated women out there that have chosen to embrace motherhood and stay at home with their kids. These women are very important because they have decided to out their children, the future generation first. They are not rejects or lazy or less important than working folk. Networking gives these moms an outlet, a place to write and share and be creative. They are giving back to society and helping everyone. Blogging is fun, but it is work to, and these women deserve credit for their hard work.
I think part of thr reason people are so dismissive about mommy blogs is due to the sheer number of them. In 2012 the Globe and Mail estimated there were about four million mommy bloggers in North America.
Yes, I will admit to sometimes questioning whether it was worth blogging since there are so many. I mean, what makes mine any different? But, I decided that even if I only helped 10 people it was worth it, especially to those 10 people. I mean, there are billions of people in this world but we are all special in our own way, regardless of how many of us there are. That’s how I feel about my blog.
I do think that due to the number of really good “mommy blogs” out there opinions are changing. People are realizing the value of them and talking about them in terms of networking (think mumsnet etc.) rather than “mommy blog”.
As Don Draper would say, if you don’t like what they are saying, change the conversation. It looks like the term “mommy blog” is and may be negative for a while so instead of trying to change that, we’ll just call what we do by something else.
So, in my case I am going to refer to myself as a networking mom and I am going to try to create a great blog that shows how great my network can be.
So what do you think? If you are a mother and a blogger does that mean you have a “mommy blog”. Share your stories and opinions.