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Why is the Term “Mommy Blog” Derogatory?

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I am a scholar at heart. I am always reading and researching (which is no surprise since I spent seven years in university doing just that). So, since jumping into the world of blogging I have been researching everything from tips for promoting your blog, to how to make your posts interesting. I have also been reading and following a lot of similar blogs to my own (parenting, moms of multiples etc.). I have also been talking with some friends and family about my blog.

In all of this I have come to realize people do not appreciate “mommy blogs” in the way they should.

When I first started blogging I thought it was such a great idea. When I was pregnant with the girl’s I learned more from reading other people blogs than I did from reading the myriad of twin books I bought. Books are “in theory”. Well, in theory communism works. Blogs are “in reality” (or slightly edited versions of reality).

Yet, when I told my friend about my blog, she said, “oh yeah, there are tons of mommy blogs. They talked about them at a media conference I went to as a dime a dozen.” And believe me, she was in the midst of supporting me, so she was not trying to be hurtful or discouraging in any way.

Just last night I was reading about blogging for your career on Mashable (since I plan to start a professional blog as well) and the article made a joke about how there is more to blogging that “mommy blogs”.

Finally, the cherry on the cake was an article I read (which I wanted to link to, but of course I couldn’t find it again) which actually said blogging was bad for women. Basically, rather than empowering us it made us look like silly housewives posting electronic scrap books of our lives (I am paraphrasing here, I read the article a few weeks ago).

So what’s going on here? Why is being a mother and a blogger not as impressive as say being Watson blogging about Sherlock? (Great show by the way, watch it!)

Here’s my take on it. They say it takes a village to raise a child and it does. In earlier times, or even still in other cultures families are large and mothers, sisters and daughters all help eachother out. They don’t read parenting books or visit lactation specialists, they talk to each other, help each other and learn from each other.

Here in North America, families are smaller, segregated, and the village is not always there. So, by mothers blogging, networking and sharing they create a virtual village of resources for other parents to turn to in times of need, for help or even just a laugh to remind them they are not alone. Being a SAHM can definitely feel lonely sometimes.

Speaking of SAHMs, that another point. There are thousands of intelligent, well educated women out there that have chosen to embrace motherhood and stay at home with their kids. These women are very important because they have decided to out their children, the future generation first. They are not rejects or lazy or less important than working folk. Networking gives these moms an outlet, a place to write and share and be creative. They are giving back to society and helping everyone. Blogging is fun, but it is work to, and these women deserve credit for their hard work.

I think part of thr reason people are so dismissive about mommy blogs is due to the sheer number of them. In 2012 the Globe and Mail estimated there were about four million mommy bloggers in North America.

Yes, I will admit to sometimes questioning whether it was worth blogging since there are so many. I mean, what makes mine any different? But, I decided that even if I only helped 10 people it was worth it, especially to those 10 people. I mean, there are billions of people in this world but we are all special in our own way, regardless of how many of us there are. That’s how I feel about my blog.

I do think that due to the number of really good “mommy blogs” out there opinions are changing. People are realizing the value of them and talking about them in terms of networking (think mumsnet etc.) rather than “mommy blog”.

As Don Draper would say, if you don’t like what they are saying, change the conversation. It looks like the term “mommy blog” is and may be negative for a while so instead of trying to change that, we’ll just call what we do by something else.

So, in my case I am going to refer to myself as a networking mom and I am going to try to create a great blog that shows how great my network can be.

So what do you think? If you are a mother and a blogger does that mean you have a “mommy blog”. Share your stories and opinions.

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About Shannon

I am a university educated full-time working mother of four children. Proudly Canadian, I freeze my butt off along with my loving partner, two dogs and a cat. I hope you enjoy reading my posts as much as I love writing them, but if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all.

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9 thoughts on “Why is the Term “Mommy Blog” Derogatory?

  1. Funny you ahould write this at the top of my blog i even ‘just another mummy blog’ lol.. i dont write for ‘people’ im selfish lol… i started to.write becajse i type faster than i can handwrite. Its. Journal. An outlet. Commication and sharing more in depth with close family over seas. Over the years ive gotten so many followers, comments a.d feedback. I must be doing something right for them to stick around.
    Although not eveeryone likes a selfish blogger.

    Posted by journey2dfuture | July 21, 2013, 1:35 pm
  2. Hmmm. . . interesting points that you make. I think that in some ways, technology has simultaneously isolated us more, and created a capacity or us to be more of a global network. For the isolation reason, I think people like reading about other people’s inner thoughts or dramas because it feels intimate and confessional. I started my blog because I wanted to get back to writing and I was curious what would happen if I started a blog. I love writing and I have found that I love meeting other people and sharing and learning as well. Parenting is a lot more complicated these days than it was way back when… firstly because so many women are part of the work force and we have to resort to daycares. Our children are exposed to so much more these days, culturally, I think. So, I think it is important to have a good network, a safe space to process and learn and grow. We all blog for different reasons, I guess. I’m proud to have a mommy blog (even though I blog in secret, lol!)

    Posted by momasteblog | July 21, 2013, 2:08 pm
  3. The way I see it, I’m a mom and I blog about it. It’s as simple as that. Blogging started out as a way to remain sane as I continually nursed my son during his first growth spurts and it has evolved in a sort of online scrapbook/journal/milestone recorder/place for other parents to see that they are not the only ones that feel as though they are going crazy sometimes. The important thing for me is that I’m having fun and meeting some like-minded individuals to help me feel less isolated.

    Posted by mommytrainingwheels | July 21, 2013, 3:54 pm
  4. I had no idea how many mommy bloggers there are! And I never read any of the top 10. I write because I have to, don’t you? But i love connecting with other people..

    Posted by Christie Silver | July 21, 2013, 8:54 pm
    • I write because I want to help other people and it’s fun. I try to keep my guard up because I have been hurt a few times. But in the end I have put a lot of work into my blog and I hate for it to be dismissed just because there are so many mommy blogs out there.

      Posted by Shannon | July 21, 2013, 10:12 pm
  5. i’ve managed several blogs way back but most of them got lost during transitions of blog sites and i never got to update them anyway so it’s all good. A few years back, I maintained a blog where i write all my rants and thoughts and other what-nots that i could think of. When I got pregnant, I started another blog to somehow document my journey through pregnancy. Now, I started another blog (sort of a book 2 of my pregnancy blog) to document my journey with my son. i write/blog because i want to. i would agree with journey2dfuture, my blog is my journal. i’m happy that i get to have a few followers and i hope they enjoy whatever i post, but like i said, i like to document my journey to parenthood in the hopes that one day, my son would be able to read it too. 🙂

    Posted by chilledzhoul | February 24, 2014, 9:45 am

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