It is no secret. It has been reported time and time again that the number one issue couples fight about is money.
So why then, do couples insist on having a wedding they can not afford?
If you asked someone if they would sacrificing years of financial security for a good party they would probably look at you like you were crazy.
But say the word “wedding” and all of the sudden rationality goes out the window. (I actually read about one woman who said she couldn’t create a wedding budget until she knew what kind of wedding she wanted!)
Now that I am engaged I have become immersed in a whole world I only ever tread on the outskirts of (read I am a fan of bride day on TLC, SYTTD and Four Weddings).
I used to think that people were blowing their budget on extravagant affairs, champagne and carriages, hundreds of guests and lavish dresses. But, like I discovered when we started house shopping, it actually costs a lot just to get the basics.
After getting quotes from a number of places, based on my calculations, a wedding for about 75 people or so will set you back at least $10,000, and that’s just for what I would call “average”, or even on the side of “frugal”.
I read somewhere that if people spent as much time working on their marriage as their wedding the divorce rate would go down, and I really believe that. Luckily, I have already had the similar experience of childbirth. People get so caught up in the delivery when really it’s just one day in a lifetime of parenting.
So what’s a couple with three kids trying to save for a house to do? Well there’s always the tie the know at the courthouse route, elope, only invite twenty people, wait for another ten years to save up, or go into debt to make the day a decent one.
Check back to find out which route we choose. If you visit the website regularly you can probably guess already.