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Are You A Closet Blogger?


When I started blogging, my plan was to keep it a secret.  My blog was for me, more than anyone else.  I did tell my husband, but even then, I didn’t tell him the address (and he’s not that computer savvy to go looking). I would tease him that anything bad he did would go straight in the blog and he would tease me about blogging.

But, as my blog grew and I got some followers I really like the idea of the “blogging community”.  After all, one of the reasons I started my blog was to help others in similar situations, and you can’t do that if no one reads it.

I thought long and hard about sharing my blog and decided to stick with the blogging community.  In my case, my work is very political and I have dealt with social media issues before so it is in my best interest the two never converge.  Sounds easy, but it’s not.  Since I spend about 50 hours a week there when I am working I have a lot of primary and secondary connections with people there so keeping them apart has been tricky.

However, if it were up to me I’d shout it from the rooftop.  I am very proud of my blog and what it has become. I put a lot of thought and work into it, and I’d hate for that to go to waste. I assumed everyone would want the same.

I was wrong.

In passing, I have heard from three other bloggers who are “in the closet”.  It got me thinking, how many of us are out there?  What are the reasons for staying in the closet?  Will we ever come out?

One of the bloggers I spoke to, who I think is the bees knees said she was worried people will judge her.  At first I thought that was a little farfetched but then this week has literally been one web related disaster after another, so I totally understand where she is coming from.  Up until now most of my problems have come from other social media outlets and my blog was my bubble.  Bubbles always burst.

I have made the leap to Twitter and Facebook, but I am still cautious.  Everyday I reconsider my decisions about keeping things private.  When it comes to things like this life has taught me that if you have to think about it that much, you shouldn’t do it.

So, if you are okay with it, please take part in the poll, and let’s see how many of us are out there.  If you would like, comment as to why.



About Shannon

I am a university educated full-time working mother of four children. Proudly Canadian, I freeze my butt off along with my loving partner, two dogs and a cat. I hope you enjoy reading my posts as much as I love writing them, but if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all.


37 thoughts on “Are You A Closet Blogger?

  1. This is crazy. I thought I was the only one who felt this way at the beginning. I’m still very new to the blogging world. I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels this way (or felt this way). I really need to get over it and shout my blog from the rooftops.

    Posted by tarajones10 | June 14, 2013, 12:51 pm
    • Well I am always here to help. When you are ready join in on one of my blog parties and get yourself out there. I really like your blog (being a working mama myself).

      Posted by Shannon | June 14, 2013, 1:33 pm
      • Jumping in – what’s a blog party?

        Posted by Theresa | December 1, 2013, 9:07 pm
      • A blog party is where you share your favourite blog posts (usually there is theme) and then check out other people’s blogs. It’s a great way to find new blogs to read/ publicize your own. I used to host one every Friday on the summer.

        Posted by Shannon | December 1, 2013, 9:17 pm
  2. 🙂 To start off with my blog was my outlet while fighting infertility. The strain it caused on my marriage. I didn’t want anyone in real life to know the truth and to the failure I was becoming. But slowly over the last 2 years I’ve let a few family members know about it. As a way of keeping up with Vinnie progress. The amount of stuff I post on my blog is far more than on Facebook or Twitter.
    Now that I have had over 20,000 hits and have 200 followers my blog is somewhat out there.
    So far touch wood * I’ve had zero hate mail or negative comments. Still I choose to keep my blog away from my ‘friend’s’.

    Posted by journey2dfuture | June 14, 2013, 12:56 pm
    • Thanks for the post. I never knew you suffered from infertility. Ditto. I wish I had blogged about it since I kept it all inside and told no one except some ladies on babycenter who turned on me in the end and left me alone. Ironically the month I started a blog was the month I got pregnant.

      I am the same, I definitely blog way more than Facebook

      Wow! Your blog is more “out there” than mine! Maybe you can give me a couple of tips 🙂

      Posted by Shannon | June 14, 2013, 1:37 pm
      • If you go wealthy back to the beginning those first 50 or so posts are even hard for me to read now. I’ve just looked I have 23,000 views. I have no idea how, why or w hen that happened

        Posted by journey2dfuture | June 14, 2013, 1:51 pm
      • That’s great! Yeah, the downside of using my phone is I just get current posts in my reader. It doesn’t actually show people’s whole sites with their previous posts or anything. When I am on the computer I’ll have to check it out.

        Posted by Shannon | June 14, 2013, 2:07 pm
  3. Many of my posts are quite personal and though my friends know that I blog, not many actually visit and read, which gives me a sense of semi-anonymity. Though I am happy to share freely among other bloggers.

    Posted by linbritt | June 14, 2013, 12:59 pm
  4. I share my blog in Facebook, and tag my husband in the post with the link mainly to share with friends and family from back home what’s going on in our part of the world. I’d be lying if I didn’t like the high I get from the feedback I get from it. I’ve had people tell me I should do something more with my writing and that makes my blog being public worth it. On the other hand, I have had one person who made a stink about one of my posts (the person was questioning the course of action doctors took with treatment for one of my son’s urology issue), which I wasn’t all at prepared for. I brushed it off and went on my happy blogging way.

    Posted by nebrtwin | June 14, 2013, 2:00 pm
    • I think that’s a great attitude. Never let one bad comment or person hold you back, just brush it off. Part of the reason I started my blog was so not to overwhelm my FB friends with parenting stuff since most of them don’t have kids. This way (those who know) can choose about how much they read. Plus when I was having issues I had to unfriend some people because reading about their pregnancies would break my heart, so I wanted to be respectful.
      I think you blog is great. Your life is so exciting, you really have things to talk about. Once I got back to work and my life starts picking up again the ironic part is I probably won’t have the time to blog anymore.

      Posted by Shannon | June 14, 2013, 2:11 pm
  5. I thought this was just me aswell ! I started my blog as my own creative outlet and thought long and hard about my twitter links, i took the leap and since then a number of friends and family have started to read. Most have been encouraging, some have been critical and because of such ive had moments where ive questioned why im doing it. My writing confidence has taken a hit. In the main i dont regret it though. I like your reasoning about over thinking things, great advice.

    Posted by Mrs Smith | June 14, 2013, 2:38 pm
  6. Hi there! My blog is “secret”. I don’t even use my real name, but the “fake” name Charlotte allows me to be super real on my blog. I am a clinical social worker, and so I would never want to deal with the ethical or boundary issues of having my clients reading my posts, knowing about my kids and family, etc. Like you, I started my blog to reach out to other moms, share experiences, and try to be a supportof compassion for others. I actually wasn’t expecting such an awesome “community” here, so I am pretty happy and trouched to have met somany other moms and great bloggers. For me, blogging has been a blessing. Part of becoming a mom is that your life sn’t really your won anymore, in a lot of ways. So, having a space that is totally my own is really special to me. Great post! Thanks.

    Posted by momasteblog | June 14, 2013, 3:25 pm
    • Thanks for your great comment. It is a great community and I am glad to see others who are similar to myself. And I especially get the job part. I have used my real name in the blog but with my Facebook page and Twitter it’s just GoD and there is great freedom in that. Thanks again for the comment.

      Posted by Shannon | June 14, 2013, 4:59 pm
  7. I have a bunch of blogs, my own public blog, one I co blog with my best friend on, one I regularly guest post on and another of my own that is private. I also do guest posts through paid freelance work. Blogging and writing is my occupation now so I’m definitely not a closet blogger. I use FB and twitter daily both for business and personal.

    When I started though, blogging was my secret. I did a management training class my last year in the professional world and the first day we played an ice breaker get to know you BINGO type game. My “secret” was that I was a blogger. No one guessed it. And I felt really awkward by the end of the game coming clean that I in fact was “the blogger.”

    But like I said, it’s my whole world now 🙂

    Posted by Heather C | June 14, 2013, 8:13 pm
    • Wow! That is a lot of work. I barely find the time as it is with three under three and two dogs! Good for you! For me it is filling the void left by my job (not that I miss doing everything I do plus working full time) but I need something to keep me grounded.
      Sad fact, I have a BA and an MA (magna cum laude) but I.would not consider myself a good writer by any stretch! LOL

      Posted by Shannon | June 14, 2013, 9:15 pm
    • Funny how you were “outed” too.

      Posted by Shannon | June 14, 2013, 9:15 pm
  8. I wrote about this sometime back, to confess that I am very excited about gaining new followers but at the same time, my greatest fear is to have people I know (ironically) find out about this blog. I received quite a number of responses on this point and realized that there are many like us around!! For this reason, I still haven’t started a Facebook page and haven’t shared any links to my blog on Facebook. For me, it is actually the fear of judgment, ironically, from the people I know (mostly the acquaintances I guess). My close friends do know about my blog and I’m perfectly fine with that. Haha it’s odd isn’t it, but I’m so glad I’m not as schizo as I thought I am. Anyway I hope I get over it soon, and hopefully one day, I’ll have the courage to share about my blog more openly!

    Posted by Zee | June 15, 2013, 4:34 am
  9. Only a handful of people know about my blog. I’ve not publicized my blog on my FB link nor shown my picture on my posts. I guess I enjoy my semi-anonymity status (some acquaintances did chance upon my blog and asked if I was the blogger). Maybe someday I’ll have the confidence to publicize it.

    Posted by mummyshymz | June 15, 2013, 1:13 pm
  10. I think you hit the spot on this post! I feel like everyday I am contemplating deleting my blog because sometimes I feel silly when I find out people I know have read it. But, I haven’t been able to press he delete button quite yet, and knowing other people feel the same will inspire me to stick with it. So thank you!

    Posted by twotastic | June 16, 2013, 1:29 am
  11. It was a huge leap for me to share with my “real” world (aka posting it all over my facebook page) but i did it because I wanted people to know the insanity (fun insanity, but insanity all the same) I was living and, like you, I thought it might help people in similar situations! So far you and one other blogger are the only people I know with twins and a toddler (if you get pregnant when your twins turn a year let me know–we’d be in identical situations down to the age of your first son’s when we got pregnant with twin girls!!!!!!)

    glad you’re sharing now!

    Posted by Mama Mia | June 16, 2013, 1:34 am
    • Thanks for the comment. I think a lot of people I know would be shocked if they knew I blogged (mostly because they wouldn’t believe I find the time). If I ever change jobs I will definitely get myself out there. Until then at least (judgin by others comments) it’s a big closet 🙂

      Posted by Shannon | June 16, 2013, 2:07 pm
  12. Wow, I’m so glad I’m not the only one! I am a complete novice and only started my blog this week. It makes me feel so much better knowing this is a common thing. Only my husband knows and I don’t know if I’ll ever tell anyone else (in my reall life)! Great blog too, I’ll definitely keep reading.

    Posted by thebodyindex | July 9, 2013, 4:41 pm
    • Thanks for the compliment! Well, you never know. Blogging is addictive and one you get more followers it may not feel like so much of a secret…but no matter what, you are definitelynot the only one.

      Posted by Shannon | July 11, 2013, 10:30 pm
  13. Oh my goodness I love this post! You just wrote about me. Word for word. Especially the husband part! I just started Cooper’s blog and I don’t want ot share it with anyone I know. It’s my personal outlet. And I’m scared to share it as well. Great post!!

    Posted by swensonkate | December 1, 2013, 9:33 am
  14. This is a really interesting post! I started out blogging for myself, but I couldn’t stop myself from telling my friends and family. I did get some flack at first because I chose to write in English instead of French, but it never worried me. Since I only talk about parenting, I’m not worried about people I know reading it. My family is actually happy about it because it allows them to see how my son is doing several times a week. However, if it were more of an opinion-based blog, I probably would want to keep it more secret.

    Posted by mommytrainingwheels | December 1, 2013, 10:47 am
    • I never thought about it, but my husband asked me once how the kids will feel when they are older knowing there are pictures of them on the net for anyone to see. It’s a good point.
      I like that my family (and now husband) read mine, but at the same time I find it limiting because there are certain things I can’t say.
      Plus, I hate to say it, but parenting is opinionated whether you like it or not. Whether you sleep nurse, use a pacifier, circumcise, vaccine etc. Of course how you present it affects how controversial the post is. But, I do get what you are saying 🙂 thanks for stopping by.

      Posted by Shannon | December 1, 2013, 11:59 am
  15. Very few people in my day-to-day life know about my Solo Mama blog. Everyone and their brother knows about The Daily Awe. I’m not sure why I’m not totally out of the “closet” with my mama blog. Probably just because I wanted to keep it private for fear of judgment.

    Posted by Lindsay | December 1, 2013, 1:10 pm
  16. My blog is and always has been public. Well, public in that I’ll tell others about it if it seems right, I share posts to my Facebook friends and found many fellow blogs in the infertility community. I get why others want to keep theirs a secret, I just never felt the need to….partly because it allowed me to spread infertility awareness.

    Posted by Theresa | December 1, 2013, 9:06 pm

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