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Sexy Saturdays: How to Keep the Flame Going with Kids


Relationships are tough. But here are a few ideas of things you can do to keep things hot when things get cold (okay, well at least like warm). Disclaimer: I am not a relationship expert, just speaking from experience.

Feel free to add your own tips in the comments section (PG 13 only please).

1. Sexting (sexy texting). Send something fun, sexy, steamy to hubs during the day. You get to enjoy the art of flirting again (you remember flirting right?) and get revved up for later.

2. Sexy lingerie. Yes, it’s cliche but it works. In my case, my underwear is the last thing on my mind so when I do put in the effort hubs is very appreciative.

3. Romantic dinner. Make his favourite as a way of saying I love you.

4. Watching sexy tv/movies. Sometimes I get so involved in being a mom I forget about being a woman. Yet, after watching a few episodes of a tv show with a steamy hunk and lots of sex scenes usually reminds me I am. I am not talking porn or anything, just regular tv.

5. Hold hands. It’s sounds silly, but there is power in touch. Simply holding hands can make you feel more connected and can eventually lead to other touching.

6. Massages. These are great! Especially if your back hurts after lifting babies all day. Foot rubs and hand rubs are also nice.

7. Small gifts. We are definitely on a budget, but little tokens can show that you are thinking about each other. It could be your favourite donut, or a hockey themed pez dispenser, but it should be something thoughtful.

8. Let each other win an argument. In my case, we are both pretty stubborn, and even though we rarely fight when we do it’s always about something stupid (like the last episode of Walking Dead). Just let it go. Or if you must fight, consider it a buy in for make up sex.

9. Look at old pictures. Again, sometimes you just get lost in mundane life. Looking at pictures of when you were young and dating reminds me that we are more than our chores we can be fun and romantic and all the great times we have had together. Time to make more.

10. Say I love you. Say it lots and say it like you mean it, because you do. Not only are you setting a positive example for your kids, you are renewing your relationship.

Have fun!


About Shannon

I am a university educated full-time working mother of four children. Proudly Canadian, I freeze my butt off along with my loving partner, two dogs and a cat. I hope you enjoy reading my posts as much as I love writing them, but if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all.


12 thoughts on “Sexy Saturdays: How to Keep the Flame Going with Kids

  1. It’s always nice to see a post like this to give you a reminder to keep things going with your loved one. Once the children are here the marriage or relationship always seems to take a back seat.

    Posted by journey2dfuture | June 15, 2013, 1:47 pm
  2. Set up a date night (even if you stay in). Hubbs and I are married 21 years and we have a date every weekend – usually at home. When the kids were little we’d get them bathed and put to bed and then we’d take our cassette player out to the patio with some candles & a glass of wine or 2. We’d sit under the stars and talk and just connect. We still do that and often prefer doing just that go the noise and excessive a/c in restaurants 🙂

    We take a little more care with our appearance on those dates, too — I will put on a skirt & heels or pretty top & jeans, he wears a nice shirt & dressier pants. The point is that we make the effort and, after 22 years together, the spark is still there 🙂

    “The most important thing a man can do for his children is love their mother.”


    Posted by emjayandthem | June 15, 2013, 1:56 pm
  3. Sigh. I needed this one today! Good tips!

    Posted by momasteblog | June 15, 2013, 9:15 pm
  4. In my experience, the three single-most things we do to keep our relationship intimate as we raise our kids are (i) make time for couples activities – dates, conversation… and (ii) be honest with one another about our desires, sexual and otherwise, and accept the reality that these change over time and (iii) share fantasies and be open to fulfilling them

    Posted by mik1999 | December 14, 2013, 9:40 am
  5. Any recommendations for sexy movies?

    Posted by organizednowplease | December 14, 2013, 10:59 am

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