On social media!
For for everyone to read!
Sadly, I stooped to this person’s level and shot it right back (which I shouldn’t have).
So in order to help prevent this type of thing from happening here are some general questions I advise you not to ask any woman.
1. How old are you? If A woman wants to tell you her age she will. Does it matter how old she is? Age is just a number. When birthdays roll around I always stick with “happy 21st”.
2. How much do you weigh/ what size are you? Many women are sensitive about their appearance and feel uncomfortable talking about their size (this includes both thin and heavy people). This can be tough if you work in retail, but usually I would ask, “what sizes can I get for you?” and pull a 6 and an 8, even though they were probably the latter.
3. When are you getting married/ having kids? If we knew, we would tell you. You have no idea what kinds of loaded questions these are. Since they can require so much information (some of which, she may not want to share) to answer truthfully, they are best avoided.
4. Are you on your period/ have PMS? I hate it when people just assume if I am emotional or in a bad mood it’s PMS. I am a complex person and I am allowed to have complex feelings over and above my hormones. No one ever asks a man when he’s angry, “is it your testosterone?”
5. Are you pregnant? You NEVER ask A woman this. Firstly, because if she’s not, you either just told her she was fat or glowing (guess which one most people will think). Secondly, even if she is pregnant there is obviously a reason why she hasn’t told you yet so just wait and she will announce it when she is ready. Finally, as many as 1 in 4 couples suffer from infertility. This can be the most hurtful question in the world for someone who has been trying unsuccessfully for months or even years to get pregnant.
I am sure there are more, so feel free to add your own in the comments. Really, I think it’s all about common sense. If A woman wants you to know something she will tell you voluntarily. Otherwise, just consider it none of your business.
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