It has been about three months since I embarked on Project Me, and while things don’t feel that different, after reflection I have actually changed quite a bit! This just goes to show that you can do anything if you put your mind to it. Here are some updates on the various challenges I set for myself.
1. Hugging My Children: I am happy to report that I am now hugging my kids constantly and they are hugging me. I feel closer and more connected to all of them, and I am reaping the joy that comes with every unsolicited hug and kiss. In fact, even though she’s only 14 months old, if you say to Sansa “hug” she smiles and then dives at you giving you a big hug, burying her head in your chest.
2. Adapting to My Three Year Old: Still doing it! He is constantly changing but so am I. It is so much easier now that I look at it in terms of adapting to him, rather than trying to control him to act or be the way I want or expect.
3. Actively Listening: This one has made a big difference for so many reasons. It is still tough sometimes I do make a point of stopping what I am doing and looking at my son when he is speaking to me. I do need to work on it with hubs though since we are both awful when it comes to actively listening to each other.
4. Smart Praise: Again, still doing it and I find it and I can see a new-found independence in Sawyer. He takes pride in his achievements himself instead of always calling me or waiting for positive reinforcement. In fact, he will often do a good deed like help his sister with her bottle or something and not even mention it to me, but he will be proud.
5. Riding A Bike: Still working on that one. You know we have had snow on 63 of the last 90 days here? Today is -19 degrees and they are expecting afternoon flurries. So while I am so eager to get started, things are on hold. I did get the bike though and I am so excited.
6. Being More Mindful: I have definitely improved in the category a lot. I am always trying to remember to stay grounded and in the present moment in all aspects of my life, and I am always calling myself out when I realize that I am slipping back into my old habits.
7. Being Healthier: While progress is slow, I am definitely making some. I have reviewed and revamped my vitamin and herbal regimen, I am going to bed an hour earlier than I was, I am buying (and eating) all sorts of fruits and veggies instead of junk food and candy and I am even drinking water! (Admittedly nowhere near enough, but it’s a start).
8. Turning off the T.V.: Wow, what a difference this has made in my kids. We spend much more quality time together, Sawyer is expressing creativity in ways he never has before, we read more, and when we do sit down and watch a movie the kids actually pay attention instead of begging for cartoons and then ignoring them after five minutes. For me, I feel like time goes by faster and I have way less headaches and bad moods from watching the same cartoons over and over again. It’s funny, the other day I actually told Sawyer he could watch a bit of cartoons and he said “that’s okay mommy, it’s bad for me”!
9. Being Back At Work: It has been over three months since I went back and if feels like forever (and I mean that in a good way). I feel like I have things under control, we have a routine, I am not going crazy missing the kids or struggling to meet my deadlines. I am a PWM (proud working mama) but I definitely enjoy my days off!
Overall I am definitely a work in progress, but I just wanted to show that you really can change your life when you make some resolutions and stick to them. Don’t get me wrong, I am human and I definitely have my bad days, but when I stop and think about all I have accomplished it really makes me feel good and motivates me for the days ahead.
Good luck to everyone with their projects as well and thanks so much for being a part of my journey.