Most people cringe at the thought of having two babies at the same time, but being a mother of twins does have it’s perks. Usually these secrets are highly guarded by us moms of multiples but I am going to let you in on the fact that while it may look hard, really it’s not that bad at all.
Here are 10 reasons why I think having twins is easier than just one baby or two children that are different ages.
1. Help. While people may ooh and ahh over your newborn at the grocery store, when they see you have twins most people will offer you help. Whether it’s grabbing something off a shelf or holding a door so you can get through, most people feel for you and are these little acts of kindness can go a long way.
2. Gifts. We got so many gifts with the twins it was amazing. Especially since etiquette is really you only have a baby shower for #1 (and then that stuff gets passed along). So while I wasn’t expecting anything, we got literally showered in gifts, double what we got for Sawyer with no baby shower. Plus, we got send flowers and gift baskets when they were born (which we did not get for #1).
3. People expect less. I get so many compliments because colleagues are always impressed that I show up to work on time and looking put together just because I have twins. You walk the dogs everyday… with twins… wow! “Look at that mom drinking coffee over there with twins, I don’t know how she does it”.
4. This one is probably more unique to me, but I get to do hand-me-downs. Babies outgrow clothing so quickly half of it barely gets used before it gets put away or passed along. Since I had two girls and they are different sizes, when June outgrows something I can pass it down to Sansa, which means I actually get my money’s worth.
5. Less waste. I always felt like we wasted so much food with Sawyer since babies eat such tiny portions and can like something one day and not the next. With two babies, odds are someone is going to eat it, and you don’t have 50 little containers of odds and ends in the fridge all the time.
6. Twins are at the same stage at the same time. It’s really more like having a baby and a half. You are changing diapers anyways so you just change two. You are feeding anyways, you just feed two. But two children at different stages can mean two sets of meals, two different bed times, and two types of toys (or rather trying to keep the older one’s toys away from the younger ones).
7. Born playmates. Yes, they fight too, just like all siblings, but they do spend a lot of time keeping each other entertained, whereas with siblings (depending on the age gap) they may not get along so well, at least until they are older.
8. You only have one pregnancy and newborn stage. Don’t get me wrong since you are still doing the work of two in one, but it is just one. This means you get an instant family while only having to take one maternity leave (which can benefit your career/ income) and if you don’t like being up all night feeding and changing diapers, you only have to do it once.
9. They are in the same grade. This means that you only have one school to drive to, one set of awards, ceremonies, plays, PTA meetings, etc. to go to instead of two.
10. You have the best excuse in the world. No, I am sorry I can’t go to your party, I have twins. Oh, sorry my car is a mess, I have twins. My socks don’t match? Oh sorry, I have twins. Kids are having a spaz in the grocery store? “Oh, that poor mother trying to do her groceries with twins”.
Well there you have it. Keep in mind this list is based solely on my experience so if you moms of older twins out there have more to add feel free!