If you read my blog you will know that I rarely watch television and same goes for my kids. I do have a few guilty pleasures and watching TLC’s 19 Kids and Counting on occasion is one of them. Now before you think I am crazy let me explain.
Of course I realize that there really is no such thing as reality television because a) even something unscripted can be edited to appear a certain way and b) the simple act of filming could very well change what is being filmed. And yet, there is something about Michelle’s soft voice or the wonderful family activities and bonds between them that keeps me coming back for more.
Have I read the criticisms of the family? Of course I have. To be honest, even I am surprised I like the show so much. When it comes to religion I am completely hands off where as they are full body submerged (although the show really downplays that aspect).
People say they are horrible people to have so many kids. The way I see it, as long as you are raising them well and can support them and provide them with what they need then who is anyone to judge? I’d rather see a family like that than someone who has just one or two kids but has no money and depends on social assistance and on top of that doesn’t even do a good job of raising their kids.
They brainwash their kids, they make their kids parents their other kids etc. Etc. I know all about it. But…
The reason I watch it is because it want to, no I NEED to, believe that living in a family of 19 Kids can be that wonderful, that a couple can be so loving even after all those years of marriage, and those kids can be so virtuous. By convincing myself that their life is even half as good as it seems gives me hope that my life could be like that too.
Some people aspire to be the perfect mom with the great look, great kids and live a Pinterest type of life. Not me. I know that all that stuff is fake and that no one is that perfect. Even if it was possible I wouldn’t want it because I want to live a real, imperfect and sometimes messy life and I want my kids to do the same.
No, I would rather aspire to be like the Duggars (or at least the family they ar have portrayed to be) and have a family who loves each other. A family who puts others before themselves. A life full of organized chaos with a little cherry on top. That’s me. Not to mention I think they are so lucky to have so many kids and that Michelle has gotten to be pregnant so many times.
And so I will occasionally tune in looking for some words of wisdom about parenting or marriage or how to just make the most of the life or just to relish in a family with common interests and bonds. I refuse to let anything take that away from me even if it is the cold hard truth that the show is as much scripted as any of the other family shows I grew up watching like Family Ties or Growing Pains.
So that’s why I like watching the show. I think that if they can do it with 19 Kids I can totally do it with three. It reminds me that anything is possible if you set your mind to it and that at the end of the day the thing that matters most is your family not the job you have or the car you drive or the private school you send your kids too.
In case you are wondering it’s usually on Tuesdays. Oh and if you think I am promoting TLC you might want to see my rant about the show I Didn’t Know I Was Pregnant. LOL.