Lately I feel like the news is full of multiple births. Obviously, these things catch my eye being a mom of twins more than maybe your average person. Also, I recently read the Gosselin’s book (those poor kids).
If you follow A Game of Diapers on Facebook you will know that I am a fan of the Gardiner quad squad and have been sharing information about them and frequenting their site. In their case, she has endometriosis and they tried for 8 years before going to ivf. When the did ivf they only implanted two eggs but by some fluke/miracle they both divided and she was pregnant with two sets of identical twins girls. At this point the babies are almost a month old and doing well.
It was yesterday when one of their posts popped up about another quad mama. This one was younger than me and had given birth to pretty much term quads. The catch, she died right after giving birth. A “poster child for quad pregnancy” as her doctor called her was now gone and she has left her husband and four newborns. I couldn’t find much info other than they did ivf. They say she may have died due to blood pressure/stroke. I have to wonder how many eggs were implanted or what her story was.
I guess my point is that this story is a stark reminder that humans were not designed to carry higher order multiples. Success stories like Jonathan and Kate (and by successful I mean the pregnancy) or the Gardiners are so sensationalized that people think with modern medicine they can do anything.
Well you know what? That’s because they don’t make tv shows about women who lost one, two or all their babies due to carrying too many. And honestly I wouldn’t have even heard about this story if it wasn’t for FB since it’s from the US.
Obviously I am not judging or advocating fetal reduction, and in fact, I am a huge supporter of ART (fertility treatments). But looking at that picture of a happy pregnant woman and knowing she is now dead still haunts me. I know from experience that two is tough. While I would definitely take them if they were left on my doorstep I am not sure if I could handle the risks associated with a quad pregnancy.
What do you think? Are we desensitized to this type of stuff? Where do people draw the line between trying to get pregnant and having a litter?