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Going to Dinner Without Your Newborn


Recently Chrissy Teigen and Her husband John Legend came under fire for going out to dinner while their three week old daughter Luna stayed home.

So, of course I had to add in my two cents on this (and please share yours in the comments section).

Is it wrong to leave your newborn for a night out? Or, conversely, is it right to stay at home chained to your little one? (The fact that mom got most of the blame is enough for a whole other post).

With my first I never could have imagined leaving him to go out when he was so young…while I was pregnant. The he was born and, well, let’s face it having a newborn for the first time is hell. The lack of sleep, diapers, nursing, trying desperately to find romance while leaking from everywhere and lacking in personal hygiene etc. So while I never left him for a night out let me admit that I would wait all day for my husband to get home so I could throw the baby at him and run put the door with the dogs for some “me time”.

With the twins we had the decision add for us. My husband had purchased very expensive Lady Gaga tickets for me before I was even pregnant and the concert date was about 6 weeks after the twins were born.

Did I go? Yes.
Did I feel guilty? Yes.
Did I have fun? Yes.
Did it matter in the grand scheme of things? Not one bit. The kids were fine, I had pumped breastmilk and they did their newborn thing.

So to Chrissy and John I say enjoy those moments and who cares what others say, it’s your life and not theirs. Maybe those others are jealous or they don’t even have kids but whatever their motivation you can’t understand what it’s like to be someone without being them.

What do you think? Would you? Could you? Have you? Please nice comments only this is a place of love and support no matter what your opinion.


About Shannon

I am a university educated full-time working mother of four children. Proudly Canadian, I freeze my butt off along with my loving partner, two dogs and a cat. I hope you enjoy reading my posts as much as I love writing them, but if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all.


7 thoughts on “Going to Dinner Without Your Newborn

  1. Good for them for getting out! With my twins (who are also my first) I suffered/suffer from huge guilt whenever I leave them. But honestly? Leaving them for a few hours is the only way I keep my sanity. Even when they were be borns my husband would kick me out of the house to go shopping at least.

    Posted by MamaEm | May 16, 2016, 10:17 am
  2. Yes you are right, you can’t fault them.In terms of feeling guilty, it never goes away for me unless my kids are with a family member or really good friend.I won’t say I’m not jealous of being able to get out like that, cause lets face facts, I just want to see a full length movie in a movie theater with nachos. SO who wants to gift me 1 million dollars, a house keeper and a nanny? haha

    Posted by lifeofaresidentswifeblog | May 16, 2016, 11:50 am
  3. I haven’t and I wouldn’t want to as generally at 3 weeks postpartum, all I want to do is sleep every spare second. But is it wrong? No! It’s just dinner! How long could it take? Baby wouldn’t miss you and it’s healthy to take care of yourself and your relationships!!

    Posted by journeyformybaby | May 16, 2016, 12:43 pm
  4. Can you imagine I wouldn’t go out even when offered by my mom and my MIL? As a new mommy, I knew I would worry myself sick, despite knowing T was in great hands, but I just could not stand the tension of pondering and worrying. What good would it be being out and not enjoying yourself? But after the li’l one turned five months old, I was ok with leaving her with the grandparents for a while. Still do! As long as baby is in good hands and the parents are using that time off to recharge themselves, it’s totally ok. Babies and parents all need to get the confidence and experience that people other than parents can capably handle the apple of their eyes. 🙂

    Posted by nirupamaprv | July 27, 2016, 12:07 pm

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